The 5 Temperaments
What would you think if it were possible to understand people? I mean understand people in a whole new way? What would your life be like? Better yet...what would your marriage be like if you know exactly why your mate did the things they did, why they said what they said or made the decisions they made? You would be able to communicate with your mate, your children or loved one's in a way that THEY like, and in a way that they will accept. Temperament lays out these exact things in such a way that you will understand AND how to work within the temperament within an individual.
There are arguments in every marriage, however knowing why you argue to begin with will eventually cause them to all but cease. Stress in an individual life or relationship is always high, however, knowing why that stress is there to begin with will allow them to deal with it in a way that stress will be dealt with permanently. Below is a breakdown of the three areas that we deal with when we deal with Temperament.
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1. Inclusion (your social orientation and intellectual energy)
Inclusion is the need to establish and maintain satisfactory relationships with people in the area of surface (not deep) relationships. This includes parties, social gatherings and people who come into and out of our lives every day. Just how many people you approach and to what degree is included in this temperament area. Some of the terms that I use to describe Inclusion are interact, mingle, belong, communicate, compassion, attend, member, togetherness, join, extrovert, introvert, exclusion, isolate, outcast, outsider, detached, withdrawn, abandoned and ignored. Inclusion does not involve the strong emotional attachments that the affection area does.
Inclusion also determines your intellectual energies and whether you relate better to tasks or people. This can be a determining factor when deciding on a mate or a career.
So we are dealing with surface relationships here, as well as intellectual energies. What type of a "thinker" you are is included as well.
2. Control (your willingness to make decisions and take on responsibilities for yourself and others)
Control is the need to establish and maintain a satisfactory relationship with people in regard to control and power. Who's in control is the key to understanding the control area of your temperament. This need can range from maintaining control over every one's behavior to maintaining control over no one's behavior. We can also include the need for no one taking control over your behavior to wanting everyone to take control over your behavior. Control is the decision making process between people. The descriptors that I like to use are as follows; power, authority, dominance, influence, control, ruler, superior, officers, leader, rebellion, resistance, follower, anarchy, submission and henpecked. The perception of feeling competent is the need that you are attempting to meet in this control area. The area of control also determines how strong our will is.
3. Affection (the need for close personal relationships)
Affection is the need to establish and maintain a satisfactory relationship with others in the areas of love and affection. This need can range from showing love and affection to everyone, to showing love and affection to a select few. Actually, affection is unique in temperaments in that it can only occur person to person. A strong emotional tie is usually accomplished by a unique relationship regarding the sharing of these feelings. The area of affection will determine how many of our emotions we share, or how emotionally guarded, or open we are.
Affection need #1
Is the need to establish and maintain a relationship with others in areas of love and affection
Affection need #2
Is the need within the temperament which is measured by whether one wants live and affection from everyone he/she meets or from a very few
The feeling that one's self is lovable is the need we attempt to meet in the area of affection.
Knowing what your temperaments are in these 3 areas will tell me exactly why you are making the decisions that you are making, and what your "temperament needs are. Temperament needs WILL be met in a godly way or an ungodly way but they will be met. With this information we can help you meet your temperament needs in a positive Godly way.
You may be a
- Melancholy
- Choleric
- Sanguine
- Phlegmatic
- Supine
